The Art Of Speaking: Winning The Mental Game Of Presenting

How many of your speeches could be considered artistic? Do your audiences view you as a master speaker? What would you have to do to boost your speaking to the next level?

Highly experienced speakers not only know their subject, they know themselves, their audiences and their craft. They know how to write, stage and organize winning presentations that engage the audience at all levels.

To kick your speaking up a notch, take any of these 13 tips on as a project and watch your investment in yourself as a speaker grow.

13 Strategies For Making Your Speeches Masterful

1. Go beyond telling your audience about your subject. Be passionate and become engaged with your subject.

2. Demonstrate your credibility and your right to be on the platform by recounting your experiences as an expert and how you solved problems and helped people and organizations.

3. Masterfully customize your material for each audience so they know absolutely that you are there for them.

4. Refine your voice control and turn your throat into a musical instrument your audiences love to listen to at length.

5. Speak from your heart and touch the hearts of your audience. Take risks by being vulnerable, imperfect and your audience will see you as a real human being, as one of them, not just as “the speaker”.

6. Speak the truth and your audience will respond. Avoid any inconsistencies or incongruencies between your “real life” and your “platform life”.

7. Tell more stories and give fewer statistics. Reduce the PowerPoint and get more personal and people will respond eagerly.

8. Connect with your audience, one person at a time. Begin the personal touch before you take the stage by “being with” people in the audience, not “talking at” them.

9. Have fun as you speak and so will your audience. To get in the fun mode, stop focusing on yourself, and instead be audience-centered.

10. Respect your audiences and they will respect you. Never insult or disrespect anyone in your audiences. Show your regard for everyone.

11. Stop writing your speeches and start living them. Find your best material from your travels, your work, your friends, your family and the real world around you.

12. Create multi-media presentations to engage people the way they are used to — with modern media. Coordinate your talk points with particular moments in the media show and you will WOW people.

13. Create and deliver your talk from the A-V-K matrix. This means your talk should be approximately 25% auditory, with 45% visual and 30% kinesthetic. You want to speak to everyone’s learning styles in the audience.

Now you have a better idea how master speakers make it look so easy. The hard work is in the preparation and in the crafting of the message. Enjoy your journey in the speaking world and you will reap the many benefits of this exciting calling.

For a comprehensive overview of your abilities as a speaker you need an assessment instrument that identifies your complete strengths and weaknesses. For a free, easy-to-take 65-item presentation assessment tool you can score right on the spot, visit http://www.mentalgamecoach.com/Assessments/PresentationSkillsAssessment.html. You can use this as a guide in creating your own presentation coaching program, or as the basis for a coaching program you undertake with Bill Cole, MS, MA.

Copyright © 2006 Bill Cole, MS, MA. All rights reserved.

The Power of Present Moment Awareness by Shannon Duncan

One of the hardest challenges for humans, is the concept of living in the present moment. People aren’t taught to value the present moment because typically, we are taught to live in the two other realms of consciousness: the past and the future. If a person were to think about it, from the time that we are children, be are taught to think about our futures. We go to school, are taught to get good grades and to stay out of trouble, so that we can go to college and get a good job in the future. Little girls are taught to pine after their husbands and they spend their whole childhoods planning their future weddings. People will ask children all of the time, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” All of these scenarios and more implant the hopes and fears that adults have for the lives of children about their futures.

As the child matures into adulthood, they live life in a variety of ways. No matter how well the child might have been prepared for the future, many unexpected things happen in life. Our lives will certainly take many twist and turns, and we might even get lost along the way. We will make a variety of mistakes large and small that will affect our careers, our relationships, and our opinions of life and ourselves. It’s during times like this that we look back to the past. We might remember the good advice that was bestowed upon us. We might hear a song that was popular during a long lost era of our lives, and the song will bring back those memories from the past. As we become even older, we will certainly have years of memories in our mind that we desperately try to hold on to, and that we pass down to our grandchildren and other relatives.

Based upon the fact that we are trained to either live in the future or in the past, it’s no wonder that most people have no idea as to how to live in the present moment. Because we don’t know how to live in the present moment, we suffer negative and downright toxic emotions such as stress, anxiety, regret, depression, anger, and bitterness. This is why Shannon Duncan has created a wonderful CD series,. Shannon Duncan seeks to help the listeners of The Power of Present Moment Awareness to understand how to train their minds to stay in the present, and to live in the present. He does this by teaching that teaching that everyday life has lessons to teach us, and that if we can focus on the present moment, we can learn and grow in the ways that we need to…now, and in the present moment.

The listeners will learn how to create healthier relationships with others, when they learn how to get rid of old hurts and bitterness. The listeners will learn how to re-frame their perspectives based on their realities in the present moment. This takes a huge burden off them, and off others. So many people relate to others and view themselves based upon viewpoints that might have been in the past, but don’t work now. The listeners will learn how to take the burden off others to be a person that they aren’t capable of being. In this way, the listener can relate to others in a way that is appropriate in the present moment.

There are so many other life-changing lessons that are waiting for the listeners This is a must-have for those who want to stop living in the past, and that want to stop worrying about the future. They can learn how to make the present moment work for them and thus create a future legacy that they will feel great about.

5 Phenomenally Fabulous Birthday Presents for Her

She’s too fussy. She has everything. She has expensive taste. Uh oh. Panic sets in and alarm bells ring as you rack every last cell in your brain trying to think of an appropriate birthday gift for her, whether she’s your mum, partner, sister, best friend or grandma.

Socks? Cliché. Perfume? Boring. Chocolates? Definitely, definitely not.

Think outside the box. What’s she going to remember more: some toiletries you picked up at the last minute or something you spent the time creating for her? It’s a no brainer. Everyone has a thoughtful side – even you!

When a loved one’s birthday is looming, the idea of choosing a unique gift can baffle many of us. It’s not always easy to avoid the clichéd birthday ideas for her. But there is a solution. Read on and avoid giving woolly socks or a bunch of posies for the tenth year in a row. So…

Consider personalised birthday gifts for her. Meaningful, fun and imaginative, all at once, there are personalised gifts galore, the truest gifts of love… the best presents for expressing your heartfelt emotions… presents that will add life to celebrations… gifts that come straight from your heart. Enough said. So what’s up for grabs?

5.) Engraved compact mirrors. This has to be one of the loveliest personalised birthday gift ideas for her. There are oodles to choose from, including silver compact mirrors, crystal compact mirrors, Swarovski crystal compact mirrors and even mirrors featuring handbag designs. Once you’ve chosen your mirror, add your own message to it to create an unforgettable gift.

4.) Personalised Champagne. Okay, so realistically, what lady in her right mind would turn down a bottle of bubbly on her birthday, especially one featuring her name on the bottle label? So go on; pop the cork on a bottle of personalised champers to celebrate her birthday!

3.) Engraved champagne flutes. What girl wouldn’t enjoy drinking her bubbly in an elegant flute emblazoned with her name plus a special message from you? Classy and stylish, you can add your own message to these birthday gifts for women… the perfect way to enhance the enjoyment of the much-loved sparkling tipple.

2.) Personalised birthday mugs. When it’s a loved one’s birthday, you need to tell her she means lots to you, that you appreciate her presence in the world. Celebrate her arrival on this planet with an exclusive birthday mug, personalised with her name, age or even a special message. Young or old, personalised mugs make incredibly unique birthday gifts for her!

1.) Gourmet food hampers. These make super-scrummy gifts for her birthday – wicker baskets chock-full with sweet and savoury treasures, from olives and marmalades to chocolate and bottles of vino. An extremely edible, incredible birthday wish she’ll never forget. What’s more, you can personalise the bottle label with her name along with a special message.