The Art Of Speaking: Winning The Mental Game Of Presenting

How many of your speeches could be considered artistic? Do your audiences view you as a master speaker? What would you have to do to boost your speaking to the next level?

Highly experienced speakers not only know their subject, they know themselves, their audiences and their craft. They know how to write, stage and organize winning presentations that engage the audience at all levels.

To kick your speaking up a notch, take any of these 13 tips on as a project and watch your investment in yourself as a speaker grow.

13 Strategies For Making Your Speeches Masterful

1. Go beyond telling your audience about your subject. Be passionate and become engaged with your subject.

2. Demonstrate your credibility and your right to be on the platform by recounting your experiences as an expert and how you solved problems and helped people and organizations.

3. Masterfully customize your material for each audience so they know absolutely that you are there for them.

4. Refine your voice control and turn your throat into a musical instrument your audiences love to listen to at length.

5. Speak from your heart and touch the hearts of your audience. Take risks by being vulnerable, imperfect and your audience will see you as a real human being, as one of them, not just as “the speaker”.

6. Speak the truth and your audience will respond. Avoid any inconsistencies or incongruencies between your “real life” and your “platform life”.

7. Tell more stories and give fewer statistics. Reduce the PowerPoint and get more personal and people will respond eagerly.

8. Connect with your audience, one person at a time. Begin the personal touch before you take the stage by “being with” people in the audience, not “talking at” them.

9. Have fun as you speak and so will your audience. To get in the fun mode, stop focusing on yourself, and instead be audience-centered.

10. Respect your audiences and they will respect you. Never insult or disrespect anyone in your audiences. Show your regard for everyone.

11. Stop writing your speeches and start living them. Find your best material from your travels, your work, your friends, your family and the real world around you.

12. Create multi-media presentations to engage people the way they are used to — with modern media. Coordinate your talk points with particular moments in the media show and you will WOW people.

13. Create and deliver your talk from the A-V-K matrix. This means your talk should be approximately 25% auditory, with 45% visual and 30% kinesthetic. You want to speak to everyone’s learning styles in the audience.

Now you have a better idea how master speakers make it look so easy. The hard work is in the preparation and in the crafting of the message. Enjoy your journey in the speaking world and you will reap the many benefits of this exciting calling.

For a comprehensive overview of your abilities as a speaker you need an assessment instrument that identifies your complete strengths and weaknesses. For a free, easy-to-take 65-item presentation assessment tool you can score right on the spot, visit http://www.mentalgamecoach.com/Assessments/PresentationSkillsAssessment.html. You can use this as a guide in creating your own presentation coaching program, or as the basis for a coaching program you undertake with Bill Cole, MS, MA.

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5 Phenomenally Fabulous Birthday Presents for Her

She’s too fussy. She has everything. She has expensive taste. Uh oh. Panic sets in and alarm bells ring as you rack every last cell in your brain trying to think of an appropriate birthday gift for her, whether she’s your mum, partner, sister, best friend or grandma.

Socks? Cliché. Perfume? Boring. Chocolates? Definitely, definitely not.

Think outside the box. What’s she going to remember more: some toiletries you picked up at the last minute or something you spent the time creating for her? It’s a no brainer. Everyone has a thoughtful side – even you!

When a loved one’s birthday is looming, the idea of choosing a unique gift can baffle many of us. It’s not always easy to avoid the clichéd birthday ideas for her. But there is a solution. Read on and avoid giving woolly socks or a bunch of posies for the tenth year in a row. So…

Consider personalised birthday gifts for her. Meaningful, fun and imaginative, all at once, there are personalised gifts galore, the truest gifts of love… the best presents for expressing your heartfelt emotions… presents that will add life to celebrations… gifts that come straight from your heart. Enough said. So what’s up for grabs?

5.) Engraved compact mirrors. This has to be one of the loveliest personalised birthday gift ideas for her. There are oodles to choose from, including silver compact mirrors, crystal compact mirrors, Swarovski crystal compact mirrors and even mirrors featuring handbag designs. Once you’ve chosen your mirror, add your own message to it to create an unforgettable gift.

4.) Personalised Champagne. Okay, so realistically, what lady in her right mind would turn down a bottle of bubbly on her birthday, especially one featuring her name on the bottle label? So go on; pop the cork on a bottle of personalised champers to celebrate her birthday!

3.) Engraved champagne flutes. What girl wouldn’t enjoy drinking her bubbly in an elegant flute emblazoned with her name plus a special message from you? Classy and stylish, you can add your own message to these birthday gifts for women… the perfect way to enhance the enjoyment of the much-loved sparkling tipple.

2.) Personalised birthday mugs. When it’s a loved one’s birthday, you need to tell her she means lots to you, that you appreciate her presence in the world. Celebrate her arrival on this planet with an exclusive birthday mug, personalised with her name, age or even a special message. Young or old, personalised mugs make incredibly unique birthday gifts for her!

1.) Gourmet food hampers. These make super-scrummy gifts for her birthday – wicker baskets chock-full with sweet and savoury treasures, from olives and marmalades to chocolate and bottles of vino. An extremely edible, incredible birthday wish she’ll never forget. What’s more, you can personalise the bottle label with her name along with a special message.

Tips to Presenting a Vegetable Tray

With all the nutrition debates that are taking place in modern society, more and more people are interested in consuming vegetables; nevertheless, for most of them, making a vegetable tray attractive and pleasant to the eye, can be a challenge. When we prepare a meal for ourselves it does not matter that much how we present it; things change entirely when we need to “cook” for our family and friends.

I must add that in my experience, it is much easier to convince a meat eater to savor your vegetable tray when it looks in a special way.

Let’s see what secrets are there to make your vegetable plate look delicious.

1. Color

Be as generous as you can with the visual sense. Remember that most people will choose their meal by the way it looks. With vegetables you have nature’s creativity by your side. Choose as many different colors as you can: red tomatoes, pink reddish, green lettuce, yellow pepper, purple eggplants, white horseradish and orange carrots. When arranged with taste, you’ll see a rainbow displayed before your eyes.

2. Love

Yes, indeed! Love what you’re doing, every moment of it, and everyone will enjoy it. From the plate you’re choosing to display the vegetables on, to the sorts you buy from the market, you must feel enthusiastic every step of the way. Cut them with care and let your creativity take hold of you when preparing the tray, play with colors and texture, don’t bother to follow some “rules” you read or heard about. The best way for you is what comes from your heart. People have a six sense and will perceive the feeling you put into it; they will feel attracted to your vegetable plate like bees are to honey.

3. Dressing

Choosing the right dressing to dip the vegetables into can be a little difficult. You can try something special and fancy to surprise your guests, but this can be tricky if you are not a greatly experienced cook. The one thing that will not fail you is garlic sauce, with or without sour cream. Alternatively, you can have a lighter dressing, for people who don’t fancy garlic that much. Try an easy mixture of salt, oil, vinegar and spices that would season the vegetables just the right way.

Don’t panic if your plate of fresh vegetables is not the queen of the party right away. Set an example by taking some on your plate and presenting it to the people that you know already love fresh food. If you receive some “yumms” and “mmms”, you’ll generate interest even in the confirmed meat eaters. Whatever you do, don’t lose confidence in your culinary masterpiece and enjoy it yourself.